Every woman, baby, and birth is different. You may go into labor at 38 weeks or 42 weeks, and it might last four hours or forty. This is all normal. As the baby is coming, you may want total silence in a bathtub or you may need tons of support while you walk laps around the room. No one can predict these things. Birth is about what each pair of mothers and babies needs to be most safe and supported.
Your provider uses language like, “We encourage you to…” and “We support you in…” —not “You’re not allowed” or “We will let you.”
Language is important. It is an indication of how you will be treated in labor: as a respected adult or as a wayward child. It is a truly scary thing to hear in the delivery room, “That’s not how I do it,” when you’re saying you need more time or that you don’t want to be cut.